Jenny accepted that she was not perfect. While she
couldn’t always perform perfectly, she could make sure Tess
knew that she truly cared about what she did. Certainly, she
would always try her best, but would be willing to laugh at
her own goofs.
She remembered the old saying, “Right or wrong, the boss
is always the boss.” If she saw Tess about to make a poor decision, she would suggest a better alternative. But once the boss
made a decision, she would accept it and do her best to implement it—even if she didn’t agree with it.
Jenny knew she had to be fully “up” when meeting with
Tess. She would speak self-confidently, knowing that if she
sounded weak and hesitant Tess would assume the worst.
Spending a lot of time prepping for meeting with her boss
would be time well spent.
Even if she felt her blood boiling she needed to keep
her cool. She would be prepared to listen to any gripes or
put-downs Tess might throw out. She would not use rude
language or personal attacks. Her relationship with her boss
was professional, not personal, she knew. Just because her
boss becomes unprofessional, didn’t mean that she should,
She resolved to never complain about things that were
beyond Tess’s capacity to change. She would not bring up a
problem unless she had a solution in mind. And she would
always give her work 100% effort, knowing that Tess easily
could tell when she was just putting in time, and would defi-
nitely not love her for it. She vowed to always do the best she
could. She resolved to make herself invaluable, so that Tess
would come to depend on her. By doing so she would build
credibility and Tess would see her as an asset to her own career
It wasn’t in her job description, but making Tess successful
would be her top priority. The best known route leading to
moving up within an organization is on the coattails of a successful manager. She would come to see Tess not as just a Bad
Boss, but as means for her own self-advancement.
Even if your Bad Boss is a chronic, demeaning bully, you must
avoid the entirely natural “fight or flight” reaction, and force
yourself into a calm, rational mode and think about your strategy for “managing up,” utilizing the ideas discussed here. For
some truly abusive Bad Bosses, however, there just is no good
strategy. If the stress becomes too great, it’s time to look for a
saner place to work.
Besides his clinical work and university teaching, Martin
Seidenfeld, Ph.D., provides consulting to organizations on management issues and on managing organizational stress.
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